Monday, May 2, 2016
How is a man to treat his wife? Let me give some negatives first. He is not to abuse her. It is possible for a man to abuse his body, and many men do abuse their bodies — by eating too much, by drinking too much, and in various other ways. That is to abuse the body, to maltreat it, to be unkind to it. Now, says the Apostle, a man who does that is a fool, because if a man maltreats his body, and abuses it, he himself is going to suffer. You cannot detach yourself from your body; and if you think you can, and abuse your body, you will be the one to suffer. Your mind will suffer, your heart will suffer, the whole of your life will suffer. You may say, “I do not care about my body, I am living a life of the intellect”; but if you keep on doing that you will soon find that you no longer have the intellect that you once had, and you will not be able to think as you once did. If you abuse your body, you are the one who is going to suffer. Not only the body, but you yourself will suffer as well. It is exactly the same in the marriage relationship. If a man abuses his wife he will suffer as well as the wife. So, apart from the inherent wrongfulness, the man is a fool. If a man abuses his wife there is going to be a breakdown not only in the wife but also in the man, and in the relationship between the two. Surely this is what is happening so commonly in the world today. It should be unthinkable that a Christian man should abuse his wife.
But not only should the husband not abuse his wife, in the second place, he should not neglect her. Come back again to the analogy of the body. A man can neglect his body. It often happens, and again it always leads to trouble. To neglect the body is bad, it is foolish, it is wrong. Man has been so constituted that his is body, mind and spirit, and the three are in intimate relationship on with another. We are surely aware of this. . . . If you neglect the body you yourself will suffer for it. Many a man has done that, many a scholar has done that, and through neglect of the body his work has suffered. That is because of the essential unity between these parts of our personalities.
It is exactly the same in the married relationship, says the Apostle. How much trouble is caused in the realm of marriage simply because of neglect! . . . It is lamentable that a man should get married and then proceed to neglect his wife. In other words, here is a man who has married, but who in essential matters goes on living as if he were still a bachelor. He is still living his own detached life, he still spends his time with his men friends. . . . A married man must no longer act as if he were a single man; his wife should be involved in everything. . . . I venture to lay it down as a rule that a Christian man should not accept an invitation to a social occasion without his wife. There is irreparable damage done to many marriages because men meet alone in their clubs without their wives. That is wrong, because it is a denial of first principles. Man and wife should do things together. Of course, the man in his business has to be alone, and there are other occasions when he has to be alone; but if it is a social occasion, something into which a wife can enter, she should enter, and it is the business of the husband to see to it that she does enter. I suggest that all Christian husbands should automatically refuse every such invitation which comes to them alone and does not include their wives.
Sunday, May 1, 2016
The moment a woman becomes the bride of a man she shares his privileges. Whatever they are, she becomes partaker of them and sharer of them. The Apostle is saying here that this is true of the church. What do we share? We share the Father’s love. There is a verse which in many ways is to me the most astounding verse in the whole Bible. It is the 23rd verse of the 17th chapter of John’s Gospel. The Lord says, “That the world may know that Thou hast sent Me, and hast loved them as Thou hast loved Me.” It is a statement to the effect that God the Father has loved us Christian people as He loves His own Son. What it means is that because of our relationship to Him we are in that relationship to God. Think of a man, without daughters, whose son has got married. He now says to the bride of his son: “You are my daughter. I never had a daughter before, but you are my daughter.” And he regards her as such. She is one with his son, therefore he bestows his fatherly love upon her — “that the world may know that Thou hast loved them, as Thou hast loved Me.” That is the privilege. It works out in this way — it gives us access to the Father. A father is ever ready to receive the bride of his son. She did not have that access to him before; there was no relationship; but the moment she becomes married to the son she has a right of access into the presence of the father. As the father is ready to receive the son, and to give the son privileges which he would not grant to his most trusted and favourite servants, so now he grants them to the bride because she is the wife of his son. Christian people, do we avail ourselves of this high privilege? Doe we realize that we have a right of entry and of access into the presence of the Father? Though He is the Governor of the whole universe, if you have a need, remember that you have a right of entry into His presence. For His Son’s sake He will not refuse you. Bride of Christ, He will always listen to you, He will always have time for you. There is no higher privilege than this. He loves us as He loves His Son, and He gives us this right of access and of entry into His holy presence.
Saturday, April 30, 2016
It has been a very hectic week for me, with half my time being elsewhere but home. When I have been home, before the rain hit the last couple days, I’ve been spending lots of time in the yard doing “spring cleaning” and helping my wife get the gardens in shape and new trees planted, etc. Then I’ve also been involved with internet discussions with a Jehovah’s Witness and an atheist. I really have some drafts of articles started that sometime I want to get finished and posted, and I also want to get more time on another chapter review of “New Age Bible Versions.” Until such time, I will continue to post citations I find worthwhile for provoking thought! For now, here is another episode of “RAAH.”
Andy Stanley has again demonstrated that he is NOT qualified to be a pastor.
Another Methodist “pastor” “weds” a same-sex couple. Oh, the “pastor” is a woman. If history is any example for us, the UMC will not discipline this woman.
IHOP’s Catholic connection.
Continuationism is not a non-essential doctrinal issue — Part 2.
“Church by the Glades” has no idea what worship of God is. Do they ever have anything there besides entertainment?
Just over 5 years ago I wrote an article about the false nature of the so-called “generational curses.” Well, Mennoknight is now doing series about the topic, and here is part one.
The whole idea of “vision casting” is unbiblical nonsense, which is why so many mega-church “pastors” like it. The leaders of LifeWay Research, as well as SBC president Ronnie Floyd, are staunch proponents of this ideology.
New Apostolic Reformation: The apostles who don’t do anything.
WOW!! Just WOW! Talk about false teaching!!!!
So is the Gospel Coalition heading towards affirming perverse sexual desires?
Bono is a favorite “Christian” singer. But is he really Christian? He doesn’t appear to be. Yet he’s held up as a model. The article also gives some good information about Eugene Peterson — another one to avoid.
The Clear Word “Bible” was developed for the Seventh-day Adventist cult, so it is rife with adjustments and additions to fit their theology. Here’s what it does to the Atonement.
False teacher Bill Hybels and Popeye.
Justin Peters has an excellent examination of “The Message” non-Bible.
Let’s lighten up now with some good satire. The Babylon Bee takes on T.D. Jakes. Then they nail the modern “cool worship leaders”. I had a good chuckle to see the swipe taken at the “wildly unbiblical” book, “Wild at Heart.” If you are as tired of the “Footprint in the Sand” story as I am, then you’ll enjoy this one. Jen Hatmaker didn’t get left out either. Finally, the foolishness of Richard Dawkins is tackled.
Thursday, April 28, 2016
We must remember that power must be tempered by love; it is to be controlled by love, it is the power of love. No husband is entitled to say that he is the head of the wife unless he loves his wife. He is not carrying out the Scriptural injunction unless he does so. These things go together. In other words, it is a manifestation of the Spirit, and the Holy Spirit not only gives power but He gives love and also discipline. So as the husband exercises his privilege as the head of the wife, and the head of the family, he does so in this way. He is to be controlled always by love, and he is to be controlled by discipline. He must discipline himself. There may be the tendency to dictate, but he must not do so — “power, love, sound mind” (discipline. All that is implicit here in this great word “love”.
So the reign of the husband is to be a reign and rule of love; it is a leadership of love. It is not the idea of a pope or a dictator; it is not a case of “ipse dixit”; he does not speak “ex-cathedra”. No, it is the power of love, it is the discipline of the Spirit, guarding this power and authority and dignity which are given to the husband. That is clearly the fundamental and controlling idea in the whole of this matter — “Husbands, love your wives.”
D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones, Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home & Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18-6:9, pg.132
Tuesday, April 26, 2016
The teaching [of Ephesians 5:22-31] is that the initiative and the leadership are ultimately the husband’s, but the action must always be co-ordinated. That is the meaning of this picture — co-ordinated action but leadership in the head. There is no sense of inferiority suggested by this. The wife is not inferior to her husband; she is different. She has her won peculiar position, full of honour and respect. That is why the man is later to be told to cherish and to nourish and to love and to care for, and to respect and honour his wife. There is no inferiority involved. What Paul is teaching is that any Christian woman who realizes all this will love to please her husband, to be useful to him, to help him, to aid him, to enable him to function. She will not cavil at saying “and obey” in the marriage service.
D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones, Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home & Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18-6:9, pg. 124-125
Sunday, April 24, 2016
The wife is the one who is kept, preserved, guarded, shielded, provided for by the husband. That is the relationship—as Christ nourishes and cherishes the church, so the husband nourishes and cherishes the wife — and the wife should realize that that is her position in this relationship. The husband is the preserver, he is the saviour of the body. The wife then should start with this idea, and she should always act in the light of it.
D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones, Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home & Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18-6:9, pg. 122
Saturday, April 23, 2016
A good one from The Babylon Bee about Joel Osteen!
A good examination of another well-abused Bible passage: Philippians 4:13.
“Soaking prayer” is nothing less than demonic.
Were tongues real languages? Absolutely!
What about praying in “tongues”? As I have previously noted, modern “tongues” is nothing more than gibberish.
Anne Graham Lotz is going farther and farther afield. Beware of her teachings!
Beth Moore and Christine Caine together — two false teaching peas in a pod.
When Christians join in supporting the destruction of patriarchy in the family, then it is no wonder that the family unit is falling apart.
Continuationism is not a non-essential doctrinal issue. Thought-provoking article.
Heidi Baker at Bethel Redding — Getting more and more bizarre daily.
The “Seven Mountains Mandate” of the NAR. These people have no idea of what Christianity is about!
“Cruise with a Cause” — something I never heard of before. Just another scam with some of the “usual suspects” among false teachers. These guys will do anything to promote themselves.
False prophet/teacher Paula White is at it again! Look at what she promised for Easter — more money for herself. Yeah, sure God told her this.
Postmodernism has really affected the Church at large, and is part of the reason the Church is compromising with the world. Gary Gilley has an excellent 5-part series on this topic. Part 1, part 2, part 3, part 4, part 5.
Here’s an event you need to avoid!
Contrary to the claims of the charismatics and cultists, “Sola Scriptura” was not newly invented with the reformation. Just remember the Bereans, who made sure what Paul was teaching was in accordance with Scripture!
For all those out there idolizing “Prince” and mourning his death, we should really mourn because he was unsaved.
“Christian” adult coloring books? I guess I just don’t understand the draw to start with, but why delve into “new age” ideology?
But, hey, Justin Bieber is into coloring now — doesn’t this make you see him as a great pastor for his new church? Um, no.
The Watchman Fellowship has a good profile on Rob Bell.
Another good one from The Babylon Bee to end with.
Friday, April 22, 2016
Feminism has led to aggressiveness on the part of the wife, the mother. She is setting herself up as an equal, and undermining the influence of the father in the minds of the children. The unhappy result is the totally false and wrong approach to the whole question. I do not say this in a spirit of criticism. We are seeing this increasingly in this country [England], but to nothing like the extent to which they are see it in the United States of America. There, you have what may more or less be called a matriarchal society, and the man is becoming increasingly regarded merely as the one to provide the dollars, the wage-earner, the man who brings in the necessary money. The woman, the mother, is the cultured person, and the head of the home; and the children look to her. This false unscriptural view of man and woman, and father and mother leads to a matriarchal society, which, it seems to me, is most dangerous. The result is, of course, the growth of crime and all the terrible social problems with which they are grappling in that country. Then, because they influence every other country through their films and in various other ways, this attitude is being spread throughout the entire world. A matriarchal society with the woman as the head and centre of the home is a denial of the biblical teaching, and is, indeed, a repetition of the old sin of Eve.
D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones, Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home & Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18-6:9, pg. 113
Thursday, April 21, 2016
Is it not a fact that, increasingly, men have been abrogating their position and retiring out of it, and not doing their duty as husbands and as fathers as the result of sheer laziness and selfishness? Husbands are increasingly leaving the discipline of home-live to the wives, to the mothers. They cannot be bothered; they come home tired from work and ask their wives to keep the children from them, and to answer their questions. Is not this happening increasingly? The husband is deliberately vacating the position in which God has put him. It is happening among Christian people, but it is happening still more among non-Christians. The husband is evacuating his position, and leaving it in his laziness to the wife.
D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones, Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home & Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18-6:9, pg. 112
Wednesday, April 20, 2016
The basic problem in the word today is the problem of authority. The chaos in the world is due to the fact that people in every realm of life have lost all respect for authority, whether it be between nations or between parts of nations, whether it be in industry, whether it be in the home, whether it be in the schools, or anywhere else. The loss of authority! And in my view it all starts in the home and in the married relationship. That is why I venture to query whether a statesman whose own marriage has broken down really has a right to speak about the world’s problems. If he fails in the sphere where he is most competent, what right has he to speak in others? He ought to retire out of public life. The real breakdown starts in the home, and in the married relationship. I am asserting that the appalling increase in divorce which has taken place since the second world war . . . is due to one thing only, namely, that men and women do not understand this Scriptural teaching about marriage and about husbands and wives.
D. Martyn Lloyd-Jones, Life in the Spirit in Marriage, Home & Work: An Exposition of Ephesians 5:18-6:9, pg. 111-112