Thoughts from the Christian perspective: discernment issues as they relate to the current state of the church and society.
Friday, September 27, 2013
Husband Leads, Wife Responds
“The impression you get from some girls today is that they start out as soon as they are able, and they chase the boys until finally they run one down and marry him. And then we wonder why those marriages don’t work out. I risk being thought archaic for saying this, but I believe it is still the prerogative of the man to do the chasing. The man is always the deliverer, and the woman is the receiver. God made them that way. And that’s why He says to the man, ‘Husbands, love your wives’ (Eph. 5:25). He didn’t turn that around and instruct the wife to love the husband. Somebody asks, ‘Well, isn’t she supposed to?’ Of course she is, but she’s a responder. She is to respond to him. If he loves her, then she will love him. If he treats her harshly and cruelly, she will become cold and indifferent, and love will die. In the majority of cases - and over the years I have counseled literally hundreds of cases that have to do with marriage problems - the man is to blame. You see, he is the one who is responsible because he is to be the leader.”
J. Vernon McGee, “Ruth” (Thru The Bible Commentary Series), p.85
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Love JV McGee. He had such a straightforward way of speaking God's word.
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I love McGee. I do wonder, though, what he would do with Ephesians 5:21 "Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ."
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ReplyDeleteI don't see why one would wonder, since I have found McGee to be very good.
I think too many people confuse that text with the idea that husbands are to submit to wives, but that is not the context. In context it is part of the teaching from 5:15-21 to the whole assembly. Vs 22 starts a new subject, addressed to wives, then to husbands.
This post is easy to agree with and follows the agape love shown to us through the Scriptures.
ReplyDeleteA study now popular amongst many church women are the "Fight Like a Girl" series whose author is that great theologian Lisa Bevere. I grieve over this apostasy that many embrace in these last days.