tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043971967398769903.post3674230691820687682..comments2024-03-27T19:50:47.426-05:00Comments on The Watchman's Bagpipes: Gimmicky WeddingsGlenn E. Chatfieldhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04117405535707961903noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043971967398769903.post-48839374795352090802013-05-18T23:25:19.450-05:002013-05-18T23:25:19.450-05:00I don't mind gimmicks, per se, if I believe th...I don't mind gimmicks, per se, if I believe the couple is serious about their union. Most of them I don't particular find all that amusing or clever, and like you, mostly annoying. But as I said, I tolerate such things if I believe they are serious. My oldest had a black wedding cake. I don't recall why, except that the reason didn't have that much to do with the ingredients of the cake as much as the look of it. One gimmick they had that I did think was OK, was that they had a gong. Instead of tapping one's glass to prompt a kiss between them, people were encouraged to hit the gong. I got a very young nephew to go nuts with it, so I had that going for me.<br /><br />I guess people want their special day to be memorable for everyone else. That's what I don't much like. My own wedding was quite simple, taking vows and requesting God's blessing before a justice of the peace at the same place where the small crowd of 50 dined afterwards. We invited those we wanted (who were close enough to attend without trouble) and that was it. At that point in our relationship, we were pretty much already married and committed to each other. The wedding was a formality.Marshal Arthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01054268632726520871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043971967398769903.post-29116637348973941722013-05-16T09:51:04.194-05:002013-05-16T09:51:04.194-05:00Jeff,
Well, thank you for that.
I try to be as...Jeff, <br />Well, thank you for that. <br /><br />I try to be as gracious as possible with exposing false or aberrant teachings.<br /><br />With issues like this post, much can be subjective, but I think it is important to understand the seriousness of marriage.Glenn E. Chatfieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04117405535707961903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043971967398769903.post-9567770492262889382013-05-16T08:59:36.633-05:002013-05-16T08:59:36.633-05:00I confess I only read a couple. I was in a mood y...I confess I only read a couple. I was in a mood yesterday and should not have posted. Looking over the rest of your blog I would say I probably agree with 99% of what you post. Sorry if I came off rash. <br />Jeff Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07126472274315216831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043971967398769903.post-10010855504586653872013-05-15T19:20:07.862-05:002013-05-15T19:20:07.862-05:00Jeff,
If you have read much of this blog you will...Jeff, <br />If you have read much of this blog you will see I do indeed have much positive to say about GOOD teachings. But one of the main purposes of this blog is to expose the BAD teachings.<br /><br />So, don't YOU have anything positive to say about my blog? Or have you read much of it? Or would you prefer to not read much and just criticize instead?Glenn E. Chatfieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04117405535707961903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043971967398769903.post-982202149055952012013-05-15T16:58:17.216-05:002013-05-15T16:58:17.216-05:00Do you ever have anything positive to say about an...Do you ever have anything positive to say about anything? Jeff Spencerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07126472274315216831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043971967398769903.post-34478743069561751492013-05-10T09:15:53.536-05:002013-05-10T09:15:53.536-05:00I wouldn't consider the music to Braveheart an...I wouldn't consider the music to Braveheart any more gimmicky than my piping at a wedding - as noted, cultural things are not the issue.<br /><br />All marriages, whether Christian or not, are indeed a covenant with God whether they believe it or not. All marriages are serious institutionally. <br /><br />Common bond? The last wedding I attended, the best man and all the groomsmen (several of them) each had to do a silly handshake, body bounce, etc to make everyone laugh at each exchange. Big joke long before the bride even appeared. That had nothing to do with the bond between the couple.<br /><br />I don't believe in "traditional" music anyway. It should be relevant to the service, be it cultural, something unique to the couple, etc. What would be inappropriate would be something on the line of "Highway to Hell."<br /><br />Traditions included in the wedding is not my point, and if you read the examples I gave, you'd know that wasn't what I was talking about. For example, I attended a wedding at the location of their reception so everyone is sitting at tables. The tables were decorated with all sorts of gold-painted animals which had nothing to do with the couple's relationship, but the bride saw the idea on Pinterest and thought it was funny. It was a gimmick. A minor gimmick, and a minor annoyance, but there were other gimmicks as to how the couple and party were dressed which really had nothing to do with their relationship.<br /><br />Gimmicks is the problem-gimmicks for the sake of gimmickry.Glenn E. Chatfieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04117405535707961903noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6043971967398769903.post-6943197647189108262013-05-09T23:17:29.173-05:002013-05-09T23:17:29.173-05:00"I'd agree with you, but then we'd bo..."I'd agree with you, but then we'd both be wrong."<br /> - Jerry 'The King' Lawler<br /><br />The problem with your opposition to these weddings is that is a covenant they are making with each other, not with you, not even with God. If the gimmick is something that they both have a common bond in, it tells me that this is a little strange, but since I am not a party to their covenant I have no right to complain.<br /><br />For example, at a wedding I attended, the couple did not play the traditional recessional at the end of the wedding, but the battle theme from Braveheart. Gimmicky? Yes. But the bride grew up in Scotland, so she really liked the song.<br /><br />The wedding is the beginning of their lives together and if they are conducting that beginning based on traditions of other people over THEIR preferences, that is setting up a bad precedent.072591noreply@blogger.com