An odd thing I have discovered is that many Christians claim that only the father of a family should be teaching the children Scripture, and that mothers are not to be doing so.
My first question is, where does one find that in the Bible? Proverbs 1:8 tells the young man to listen to his father’s instruction and his mother’s teaching. 2 Timothy 1:5 and 3:15 speak of Timothy having the faith from infancy which “first lived in your grandmother Lois and in your mother Eunice.”
My second question is, what if there is no father or if the father is not a Christian? Is the mother then not to teach Scripture to her children?
I sometimes find it difficult to understand where people come up with these legalistic ideas. I know a lot of this type of stuff comes through home-schoolers. I’m not making this charge without justification; I have first-hand knowledge because we home-schooled our kids and went to many conventions where we found lots of legalistic teachings, especially coming from the home-school icon, Bill Gothard.
I understand the motivation for Christian home-schooling is to protect our children from the atheistic, evolutionist, sex-driven government school systems, and that is wonderful; it is the reason we left the government schools. But, from what I have observed, home-schoolers as a rule seem to have some of the most bizarre and legalistic ideas outside of the cults. Aside from Bill Gothard we also have the Pearls, the Ezzos, Amish/Mennonite and other curricula, each claiming to have “God’s way” of doing things, each claiming more holiness. All these legalistic teachings twist Scripture out of its context, and all of them teach authoritarian dictatorship as the normal leadership model for the home. Additionally, virtually all of these legalistic methods live in the Old Testament, requiring much adherence to ceremonial and dietary laws that were meant only for Israel. So they have left the government schools to live in bondage to Pharisaical rules.
So what is my point? First, before telling another Christian that they are in error for the way they are teaching their children or living their lives, be sure you have Scriptural support. There are many issues that are covered under Romans 14 - - if you want to live legalistically, so be it, but don’t consider other Christians less holy if they don’t accept your idea of holiness. Second, don’t just jump on any teaching that claims to be “God’s way”; only the Bible can be trusted to be truly “God’s way.” Thirdly, check scripture in context and be Bereans (or at least Missourians) and say, “Show Me,” when claims are made about the Bible.